Honestly, it's a lot of what you are saying.
Where we disagree is that, IMO, the administration probably understands and internalizes these same things but has the added weight of having to worry about how these actions would influence broader stability in the ME. For instance, do these actions creater further tension or embolden Iran, for instance?
It's easy for Jon Favreau and the PodBros to lob grenades on this stuff because it isn't their responsibility to have to worry about the consequences.... it's a lot harder when you are the Principal and have to piece it together.