I've read this a few times. I think you've got a combination of sarcasm and reality that masks from me what you're getting at.
Bottom line is this. You're married, and so you and your wife have to make life decisions that you think are best for your family. That's fine, some of us around here are married, we get the drill. But those decisions are for you to make.
Butker's return to priests with backs turned to the congregation while conducting Catholic mass in Latin commentary was about men being men and women being women, pure and simple. There is no gray area about what he was getting at. And so **** his opinion on that.